tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post7054348466670499447..comments2023-08-03T15:34:15.291+03:00Comments on egianqueen: egianqueenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13314879262600708271noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-49062786766213104472007-07-22T07:16:00.000+03:002007-07-22T07:16:00.000+03:00Wonderful to read your update! Fascinating life y...Wonderful to read your update! Fascinating life you life--even though you play it off as dull--haha! I love the way you think! BTW, didnt I read something about you not being allowed in temple? Why? Or did I misunderstand. Does that mean even if you were in CA, you couldnt see your son get married? (I wish you blogged everyday and I'd love to see more pics--haha)Simply Evahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03222848207620584792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-86625684191259876982007-07-20T07:56:00.000+03:002007-07-20T07:56:00.000+03:00PM - I am not sure that being a Mormon helps at al...PM - I am not sure that being a Mormon helps at all - I think the thing that keeps me here for now - is that I do love him and I tend to be a very stubborn person - I make a commitment and come hell or high water I do my darndest to honour it. Must admit that there are certainly times I wonder what I have done to myself. I try to be sensitive, tolerant ... - because we do come from two very different cultures - even in the west I walk to the beat of a different drummer - I was raised to think for myself (GASP), to be able to do for myself, and to have an opinion of my own (DOUBLE GASP) - which of course is the antithesis of the culture here. So I just try to take one day at a time - some days it is one minute at a time - and surround myself with wonderful friends. I am also advised - ad nauseum - to be patient - and unfortunately patience has never been my strong suit. My husband is a good man - I believe this with all my heart - he has placed himself in a very untenable position - and unfortunately I end up being dragged along for the ride, he does try his best - and sometimes he falls short. But then so do I. I am not a perfect person either - this is my mantra - how can I expect perfection when I myself are far from perfect - just ask my parents. I am looking forward to their visit. Also looking forward to my son's visit - I miss him very much.egianqueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13314879262600708271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-58482491956886978622007-07-19T22:45:00.000+03:002007-07-19T22:45:00.000+03:00Dear Egianqueen,Welcome back and I hope you will e...Dear Egianqueen,<BR/><BR/>Welcome back and I hope you will enjoy your parents' visit. Your husband's mentality is so intriguing and I can't imagine any other non-Muslim woman who would put up with him, but maybe it helps that you are Mormon (or at least I think you are). I see Muslim women put under so much pressure by fellow Muslims to "be patient" and know "Allah will provide" when the husband shirks his responsibilities. I can't count the times I have been told that. At least they can't say that to you!<BR/><BR/>I know you must really love him because otherwise, I can't imagine you would stay. Even the most easygoing woman has her limits. I hope your husband knows that, too.<BR/><BR/>Salaam,<BR/>PMPMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06039810429646916382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-76839161980145054072007-07-19T17:58:00.000+03:002007-07-19T17:58:00.000+03:00My folks were here in January/February last year -...My folks were here in January/February last year - I believe they are the reason that I ended up in Egypt when I did. I think if they had not forced the issue - by making travel plans - I would still have been in Libya. After all his life was much easier when I was in Libya and my co-wife was in ignorance of my existence. I am hoping that we will have better weather this time around.egianqueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13314879262600708271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-5061182591998723802007-07-19T06:57:00.000+03:002007-07-19T06:57:00.000+03:00Good for you: a non-Muslim woman w/ a (God forbid)...Good for you: a non-Muslim woman w/ a (God forbid) deceased Muslim spouse would not have the law on her side when it came to inheritance. <BR/><BR/>I'm glad your folks are coming out to stay. Have they been before?Susan https://www.blogger.com/profile/06455506176926199209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-75095560658224190112007-07-19T06:52:00.000+03:002007-07-19T06:52:00.000+03:00Cairogal - I find it very ballsy of my dh as well....Cairogal - I find it very ballsy of my dh as well. Like I have not been hurt at all by this - but that is another story. And yes the flat and the car are in my name - was toying with the idea of putting his name on the deed for the flat - but decided otherwise after thinking about it - realized that if anything were to happen to him - if his name were on the deed - his wife would come after me for her share of his share of the house - so there is no way his name will go on the deed - I do not trust her as far as I can throw her.egianqueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13314879262600708271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-50519985932949013072007-07-18T21:35:00.000+03:002007-07-18T21:35:00.000+03:00lol...yes, the garden must be the cause of the rat...lol...yes, the garden must be the cause of the rats...not the rubbish that gets left outside of everyone's front door...no, sirree! It's the garden. <BR/><BR/>M, you seem to take a lot of this w/ your husband in stride. I find it rather ball-sy of your husband to talk about how hurt his first wife is, simply because, if he were that concerned about hurthing her, he wouldn't have married you. It's good that you're independent and hope that you name is on the deed to that flat. Looking forward to some photos!Susan https://www.blogger.com/profile/06455506176926199209noreply@blogger.com