tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post1655035396468899952..comments2023-08-03T15:34:15.291+03:00Comments on egianqueen: egianqueenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13314879262600708271noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-28473529069249709252007-05-10T01:42:00.000+03:002007-05-10T01:42:00.000+03:00I think it's the 'proverbial' kick in the ass, Ano...I think it's the 'proverbial' kick in the ass, Anon.Susan https://www.blogger.com/profile/06455506176926199209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-55228033711461806832007-05-09T15:28:00.000+03:002007-05-09T15:28:00.000+03:00Anonymous - my son was raised by a very strict wes...Anonymous - my son was raised by a very strict western mom - MOI - and he was taught to be respectful to all adults - and he is 25 years old - so I would certainly 'expect' him to be respectful to my husband - I know he would not be best buddies has he has issues regarding my choices. That is just the way I was raised and the way I raised my son.egianqueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13314879262600708271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-74715871484927602442007-05-09T04:55:00.000+03:002007-05-09T04:55:00.000+03:00sister you sound too easy on ur husband and too ha...sister you sound too easy on ur husband and too hard on his kids.<BR/><BR/>In his kids' eyes, you are the other woman!! why should they respect you when their own father does not. By marrying you he has to do things that he has not done...and they are mostly out of responsibility and not love alone.<BR/><BR/>Also, what you say about your son concerns me. If a child is not respectful it doesn't mean they need to get their "ass" kicked, it means their are things that need to get looked at.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-47593936426985429462007-05-01T18:24:00.001+03:002007-05-01T18:24:00.001+03:00C- glad you and yours enjoyed the cookies.C- glad you and yours enjoyed the cookies.egianqueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13314879262600708271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-20695293177034111452007-05-01T18:24:00.000+03:002007-05-01T18:24:00.000+03:00Cairogal - the kids are 17, 15 and 10. I called h...Cairogal - the kids are 17, 15 and 10. I called him on their disrespect and his comment was that Islam is just a baby - to which I responded BS - he is 10 years old - definitely not a baby. Then he tried to turn the table and asked me what I would do if Miles (my son) were disrespectul to him (Aymn) - told him if my son were disrespectful he would be a few feet shorter because I would kick his a$$ up to his earholes - and whether Miles likes Aymn or not is a moot point - I would insist that Miles treat Aymn with respect because he is my husband - bottom line.egianqueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13314879262600708271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-76916221135032709602007-04-28T21:38:00.000+03:002007-04-28T21:38:00.000+03:00E: made the boiled raisin cookies last night (adde...E: made the boiled raisin cookies last night (added some butterscotch chips to a couple dozen). My husband said: The best cookies ever. Thanks for the recipe!Susan https://www.blogger.com/profile/06455506176926199209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-24484671825698284592007-04-26T14:45:00.000+03:002007-04-26T14:45:00.000+03:00The unfairness issue is just so over rated. You c...The unfairness issue is just so over rated. You could discuss it till you turn blue in the face.....<BR/><BR/>ABout the parallel parking....ya, u sure have to be good at that in Egypt. I'm still working on it....Safahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03753208969449031396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-13814140488173708922007-04-25T18:22:00.000+03:002007-04-25T18:22:00.000+03:00I understand Eva's point on dignity, but how old a...I understand Eva's point on dignity, but how old are these kids, Egian? Sounds like Ayman needs to be the one to lay down the law and say, "You must show my wife respect as you show me." I think, if nothing more, it is his responsbility to ensure civility from the family. After all, he's brought you into their mix.Susan https://www.blogger.com/profile/06455506176926199209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-33375921069202549682007-04-25T18:19:00.000+03:002007-04-25T18:19:00.000+03:00Ah, yes...the great orator, "Fergie" as in "Fergie...Ah, yes...the great orator, "Fergie" as in "Fergielicious".Susan https://www.blogger.com/profile/06455506176926199209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-17091762398789755562007-04-25T13:02:00.000+03:002007-04-25T13:02:00.000+03:00I want to scream everytime you post abt your finan...I want to scream everytime you post abt your financial situation! (Notice I still read everything you write--haha!) Egyptian men--far too many of them--are notorious slackers, users and love to play "stupid". I am sure he "gets it", he's just "ignoring it". I think he's got an easy life with you, not to mention a free ride. Anyway, I pray to God everything is in your name! Cuz in Egypt he can take whatever he wants from you if it's not--if one day you decide you dont want to live like this anymore. As far as the kids are concerned, I went through a similar thing after being very close to my hubby's kids, especially his two college age girls. They now ignore me completely--which brings me to my advice--why, rather than trying to say goodbye to them, dont you just ignore them? Dont look at them speak to them--just pretend they arent even there. I think you've put up with enough. My personal feeling is it's now about my dignity--and I wouldnt let some ill-manered little brats turn their backs on me. In fact, I told hubby if we do go back to Egypt as we plan, I dont even want to hear about them, yet alone see them--once burned is enough.Simply Evahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03222848207620584792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-79776348994697171892007-04-25T07:03:00.000+03:002007-04-25T07:03:00.000+03:00My thoughts exeactly, CG! When it comes to these m...My thoughts exeactly, CG! When it comes to these men in polygyny who marry (usually) Westerners and then don't support them, I want to offer the words of Fergie:<BR/><BR/>If You Don't Got No Money Drag Your Broke Ass Home!PMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06039810429646916382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-63222722921259345002007-04-25T05:35:00.000+03:002007-04-25T05:35:00.000+03:00"...he just does not 'get' it" Does he not get it,..."...he just does not 'get' it" <BR/>Does he not get it, Egian, or he is pretending he doesn't get it?Susan https://www.blogger.com/profile/06455506176926199209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-82367858830207684452007-04-24T22:39:00.000+03:002007-04-24T22:39:00.000+03:00PM - I have tried to bring up the financial issue ...PM - I have tried to bring up the financial issue and the unfairness but he just does not 'get' it - he does not see that he is being unfair - when we first married he could not afford to pay for much - and just because his circumstances have improved he does not seem to realize that maybe he should be more responsible - he just spends more on his kids trying to 'bribe' them to love him - big guilt going on here. Right now I am not sure I can live 'happily' in this situation - hence the struggle - but I have given myself a year to get happy and then I will see what changes need to be made - if any.egianqueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13314879262600708271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-88943314739719543452007-04-24T22:28:00.000+03:002007-04-24T22:28:00.000+03:00Y'Allah! This is my life. It's uncanny. Do you bri...Y'Allah! This is my life. It's uncanny. Do you bring up the financial issue and the unfairness to him? Does he at least acknowledge that he is in the wrong and have a plan for improvement?<BR/><BR/>If you can live happily in this situation then you are a better woman than I am ;-)PMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06039810429646916382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34296010.post-88899403815999404762007-04-24T20:05:00.000+03:002007-04-24T20:05:00.000+03:00I think there are likely a lot of things going on ...I think there are likely a lot of things going on with the kids. The embarassment of their father taking another wife (when it may be unacceptable or unusual in their social circle) could be one reason for such behaviour. I think about Safa's blog, and what she writes about her own kids. Obviously, you can't make a clean comparison, because Safa's kids are forever without their father, but even if Amal wasn't saying anything (which is unlikely) they can see how she's affected. It would seem that taking another wife usually feels like betrayal to mother and child, and in your case, the kids and mother are working the guilt. Ayman seems to be obliging, too. Probably feeling guilty. You can't change any of this, which you've said. You can decide what you'll accept and what you won't. Good luck :))Susan https://www.blogger.com/profile/06455506176926199209noreply@blogger.com